Defining the "Grafenberg spot" or "G spot" is not a simple task. Most would simply say it is an area of high sensitivity located within the paraurethral structures. The problem with this definition is, the sensitivity of this area is not likely to be constant. If a woman is not sexually aroused, she may not have a G spot. If the same woman is highly aroused and her paraurethral glands are engorged with prostatic fluid, she may have a very distinct G spot. There are perhaps women who are not aware of a G spot even though they ejaculate and experience a more intense orgasm if their paraurethral glands are stimulated. It is for these reasons that it is important for people not to form a concrete definition of what a G spot is. Each woman will create her own definition, one valid only for her.

The next question for debate concerns whether or not "all" women have a G spot or G crest. This is not really a valid question. The G spot indicates the "sensitivity" of a non-specific area of tissue. The "G-Crest" defines the swollen "condition" of the paraurethral glands during sexual arousal. There are no anatomical structures with these names. This is in part why people have trouble finding it. What one needs to look for are the paraurethral glands. All women have these and it is likely that they all produce at least a small amount of fluid that may seep out and mix with the other fluids that are present in much larger quantities.

NOTE: As in the case of men, these glands can become infected and cause pain and discomfort during urination. Women who experience chronic urinary infections or pain should consult with a doctor to see if they may have the female equivalent of "prostatitis."

Locating The G-Spot

Who Has A G Spot?

Mastering the touch of the female clitoris:

Where can I find the clitoris?

To find the clitoris, peel apart the labia minora, the small lips, with the tip of your finger and slide it upward until you reach the little pink bump of flesh in the front. If you are in front of her, you can find it where all the whorls and folds of skin come together at the top of the vagina. The clitoris is about the size of the tip of your little finger. This is the most erotically sensitive spot in a woman's body.

How is the clitoris similar to my penis?

The clitoris is the exact equivalent to the penis, even though it is a lot smaller. In the early stages of fetal development, a penis develops in the male from the same tissue that develops into a clitoris in the female. Like the penis, the clitoris has many blood vessels and it becomes erect during sexual excitement. Because it is so small, a man generally doesn't realize how great it is for a woman when he touches her there. Imagine the clitoris is like the entire head of your penis shrunk down to an area smaller than a pea. Unlike the penis, it does not carry urine; its sole purpose is receiving pleasure.

What else should I know about the clitoris?

The clitoris is very sensitive and requires a little flap of skin, like a hood, to protect it. This is also highly sensitive. The friction alone from this flap of skin is what precipitates most female orgasms. One side of the clitoris is normally more sensitive than the other. If she doesn't know which, you may need to experiment. When a woman becomes aroused, the clitoris becomes erect or engorged. The more erect it is, the more it craves to be touched. Once your partner is very excited, keep a steady movement or pattern and you will assist her in reaching even higher levels of pleasure.

Many couples, straight or lesbian, use pussy eating as a mean to greatly enhance their sexual experience and pleasure.

How Do You Locate The Paraurethral Glands?

How does one locate these paraurethral glands? Quite simply, you locate the urethra. The urethral opening is located directly above the vaginal opening, below the clitoris. You can see it with your bare eyes; though it can be hard to find in some cases. The urethra extends back from the urethral opening, urethral meatus, into the body, along the front or upper wall of the vagina for 1.5 to 2 inches [3.8 to 5 cm]. While you can see the urethral opening, you cannot see the paraurethral glands themselves. Using a speculum, you might be able to see the swollen paraurethral glands projecting into the vagina through the vaginal wall. The video mentioned below shows this. Adventures people may want to slip a finger or two into their own or their partner's vagina while they urinate so they can feel the urine passing through the urethra. This will help you locate its exact position. Once you have located the urethra, you have a bases for seeking out a possible area along it that is highly sensitive to stimulation, a G spot.

In her book Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot Deborah Sundahl presents information about the anatomy and location of the female prostate gland gathered by Dr. Zaviacic and published in 1999. He found 70% of women have a ramp-shaped prostate gland where the thickest part is situated near the urethral opening, 15% have a ramp-shaped prostate where the thickest part is located near the bladder, 7% have a prostate gland that is thickest near the middle of the urethra, and 8% of women have a "rudimentary prostate" that has few ducts and glands. This means one must explore the full length of the urethra, 1.5-2 inches (3.8-5 cm) along the upper wall of the vagina, when attempting to locate the G-Spot. This research also indicates more than 90% of women have a well defined prostate gland, even if they cannot locate it or do not ejaculate.

The Importance of Clitoral Stimulation!

The clitoris probably holds the key to female ejaculation for most women. If the clitoris is not stimulated a woman is less likely to become highly aroused. If she is not highly aroused, her paraurethral glands will not fill with fluid. If her paraurethral glands are not swollen she may not have a G spot. If her clitoris is not stimulated she is less likely to reach orgasm, preventing the rhythmic contractions of the pelvic muscles that expel and release the ejaculate. So quite simply, before you can go exploring for the G spot, you must master clitoral stimulation beforehand. There are women who are orgasmic and ejaculate when their G spot or vagina alone is stimulated, this ability is likely to be discovered accidentally versus intentionally.

How Do You Stimulate the Paraurethral Glands?

So now that you have an idea as to the location of the G spot, how do you stimulate it? The most versatile tools to use are your fingers. They are firm but flexible. They have feeling and give you feedback. For the solo explorer though, fingers can be a problem. They just are not very long. Plus, if one hand is stimulating your clitoris, it limits access to your vagina with your other hand. So in addition to fingers, dildos and/or vibrators are usually required for finding and stimulating the G spot. (I will refer to both vibrators and dildos as dildos for the sake of convenience) Notice I used the plural 'dildos', not the singular 'dildo'. There is a considerable chance that you may have to try many different dildos to find the right one.